To Those Who Are Backstabbed

I really can't understand why there are lots of people that no matter how good you are to them and no matter how giving you are to them, they still tend to backstab you... they still tend to pull you down... they still pretend to be your friend. I wonder why they are like that when even to the people who have done you some mistake shouldn't be treated wrongfully. Is it really a sad fact of life that everyone goes through every now and then? I'm beginning to realize that it is. I wonder how those people think... How can they possibly act badly to someone who is only trying to be good to them or haven't done anything bad to them... oh well, maybe we just need to be thankful... maybe we just need to ask Him to help us be thankful instead... well, be thankful 'coz in times we meet people like this, we are able to practice our principles that in such a way we get to be a better person... be thankful 'coz we get to have a chance to see what's right from wrong... let's just be thankful and be proud of ourselves 'coz it is us who are treated like this, it is not us who are treating others like this... :)

Seeing Others' Difference

All of us once and again question people's personality or attitude... may it be something bad, weird or just anything contrast to our own... this doubt then prompt us to get mad, be hurt or even do something bad... which is wrong... we all have weaknesses, flaws, and differences with others that have cropped up from that very moment those two cells met 'til the time we see that unlikeliness... if it is easy for us to see and accept those improbable things that we do, why isn't it easy to do the same thing with others? we all have our own disparities and so are all others... to judge them wouldn't make any thing easier... to lose hope wouldn't do any good... we just got to understand and see those things in a right way... we have to understand that everyone have his own disposition that makes him different from others... we should see those things as "natural" things but not "normal" if it is something bad (of course, if it’s evil in character, we should not tolerate it)… we must see those things as an opportunity to do something good for others... Life is indeed short, as they say... and we have to take every opportunity to do something good in preparation for the next life He has for us. :)

Whims

when you feel that id in yourself, it is really tempting to do what it urges you to do... maybe that's why sometimes, or some even say that most of the time, it is good to go with the flow... yeah, it really feels good to do what you feel like doing now... of course it is... but come to think of it... it just gives you temporary happiness, right? I mean, if you just base your actions with the whims of life, you'll probably be like those people who are living spontaneously always looking for shallow things like sex, drugs or flings... I don't know, but isn't it sad? They wake up in the afternoon, take drugs with friends, have sex with someone they don't really love, go home wasted, sleep, wake up again in the afternoon... and the never ending strive to find temporary happiness goes on and on... for me it's sad... isn't it better to plan our lives or even have a goal? in this way we can be able to distinguish the things that bring us temporary happiness from the things that bring us joy... we'll be able to keep ourselves away from doing shallow things even those like getting revenge on somebody by doing something bad to him or insulting somebody with a reason you really didn't know or you didn't even think of... in this way we'll be able to do more significant things in life that will bring us joy that really lasts... so, is it better to plan our lives and have a goal? I think it is... :)

You're the Sum of Your Decisions

I have known a lot of people that would say that past isn't important anymore in the present. They would say past is past. They believe that it shouldn't be even talked about. At first I thought I understand them and it’s just a coincidence that many of them have really done weird things and have personality problems. But then again, as I come to think of it more, I have realized that past really matters. I'm not saying that people should still deal with it as if it is still happening but I think it should, at least, be honestly told especially to a lover. Why? Well, I think it's because we are responsible for almost all of the things that we've been through. Many things in our lives wouldn't have happened if they weren't because of our decisions. And I think every decision that we make reflects our personality. And to a person who is for a long-lasting relationship, the personality of a girl really matters. If someone has done something really weird/bad in the past doesn't state that she is a bad girl but it does give an idea... an idea that can really be very helpful. It can prepare someone for the things that may come as a trial in the future; It can end a wrong relationship before both lovers be so in love with each other; and so on. Many say if you love a person, her past wouldn't be important anymore and that loving is accepting all that a person is. I think I agree on that, but I think loving someone is also being completely considerate on the other person. And if you're really considerate you'll make sure if you're really for this girl. You'll try to know what you can find out about this girl and if you think you can deal with the things you found out, then that's the time you commit yourself and vice versa. :)

In My Life I Have Learned

In my life, I have learned....

that to be happy is a choice... you have to know how to see things... even the hardest fall can be a wonderful experience

that being wrong doesn't make you a less person... it just tells you what's right and that you can be a better person

that sometimes you can't change someone by forcing her to be so... or by nagging her... you just gotta love her and the change will come within her

that communication is one of the most important thing in a relationship... and to communicate well, you gotta know how to listen, you gotta have a good purpose, you gotta know you can be wrong

that if you loose someone it's better to look at her not as a personality but as a soul who chose to be with you for some time... if a soul is done, it goes... be thankful that for once it came to you

that no relationship would work without God in the middle of it

that you shouldn't judge people or even assume things... better seek first to understand and then be understood

that people need God