All of us have friends and most of us consider many people as our friends. A lot of people believe that they are friends of many people, as well. But, do we really know what a friend is? Can we really consider every one of us as a friend to a lot of people? When can one say that he is being a friend to a person? I believe that people who can be called as “friends” are very rare now. Sadly, many people are more concerned with selfish reasons and see people around them as an opportunity to get something for themselves. Many people act in friendship as if they are in a competition, only wanting to be the best and have the best from the group. So what is a friend?
A friend is someone who does not care if he has given you more than you have given him. He doesn’t remember things that he has done to you so he could ask something from you in return in the future. He is unselfish and finds gratification in giving something to you.
A friend is someone who finds no reason for not calling you back. She even says sorry for she have made you feel inconsiderable, and she would not want that to be felt by someone like you.
A friend is someone you are not afraid to divulge your mistakes or your unattractive characteristics to. You know that she will not humiliate you with those things. You know that she will help you change those inferior traits or at least accept you as who you are.
A friend does not tell deceits about you and pull you down just to be noticed in a gathering. A friend does not make fun of you and try to make a fool out of you just to make a party alive. A friend even makes fun of himself sometimes, because he wants you to be part of the merriment.
A friend will not do anything that would destroy your name. He does not stab you in the back and does not let anyone do that to you. A friend is there for you even if you are not around.
A friend is trustworthy. She doesn’t spill anything that is supposed to be just for the both of you. As a friend, she knows that there are things about you that only she can understand. She doesn’t want you to be misunderstood by other people.
A friend does not look at you as someone that he can brag to. He sees you as someone he can share his triumph with because he knows that you will also be happy if he is happy.
A friend doesn’t care to have a happy time every time you are with him. He cares more about you, what happened to you, and what will happen to you. If there is something that is important to be talked about, he would willingly talk to you or listen to you regardless of whether it will somehow make the day less fun or not.
Let’s reflect and see whether we are being true friends or just acting like acquaintance of people who have been real friends to us. Let’s always remind ourselves of the essence of friendship because that’s the only way we can able to act as real friends. Friendship is not something as shallow as drinking beer with a person; as malling around with your buddy; or as dancing with your girl friend. It doesn’t last for three hours of movie time, nor 3 days of outing. Friendship is a responsibility. It is something treasured and cared for. Friendship is a commitment like that of lovers, just less intimate… it is a commitment based on good communication, honesty, respect and selflessness.
A friend is someone who does not care if he has given you more than you have given him. He doesn’t remember things that he has done to you so he could ask something from you in return in the future. He is unselfish and finds gratification in giving something to you.
A friend is someone who finds no reason for not calling you back. She even says sorry for she have made you feel inconsiderable, and she would not want that to be felt by someone like you.
A friend is someone you are not afraid to divulge your mistakes or your unattractive characteristics to. You know that she will not humiliate you with those things. You know that she will help you change those inferior traits or at least accept you as who you are.
A friend does not tell deceits about you and pull you down just to be noticed in a gathering. A friend does not make fun of you and try to make a fool out of you just to make a party alive. A friend even makes fun of himself sometimes, because he wants you to be part of the merriment.
A friend will not do anything that would destroy your name. He does not stab you in the back and does not let anyone do that to you. A friend is there for you even if you are not around.
A friend is trustworthy. She doesn’t spill anything that is supposed to be just for the both of you. As a friend, she knows that there are things about you that only she can understand. She doesn’t want you to be misunderstood by other people.
A friend does not look at you as someone that he can brag to. He sees you as someone he can share his triumph with because he knows that you will also be happy if he is happy.
A friend doesn’t care to have a happy time every time you are with him. He cares more about you, what happened to you, and what will happen to you. If there is something that is important to be talked about, he would willingly talk to you or listen to you regardless of whether it will somehow make the day less fun or not.
Let’s reflect and see whether we are being true friends or just acting like acquaintance of people who have been real friends to us. Let’s always remind ourselves of the essence of friendship because that’s the only way we can able to act as real friends. Friendship is not something as shallow as drinking beer with a person; as malling around with your buddy; or as dancing with your girl friend. It doesn’t last for three hours of movie time, nor 3 days of outing. Friendship is a responsibility. It is something treasured and cared for. Friendship is a commitment like that of lovers, just less intimate… it is a commitment based on good communication, honesty, respect and selflessness.
