Friend

All of us have friends and most of us consider many people as our friends. A lot of people believe that they are friends of many people, as well. But, do we really know what a friend is? Can we really consider every one of us as a friend to a lot of people? When can one say that he is being a friend to a person? I believe that people who can be called as “friends” are very rare now. Sadly, many people are more concerned with selfish reasons and see people around them as an opportunity to get something for themselves. Many people act in friendship as if they are in a competition, only wanting to be the best and have the best from the group. So what is a friend?

A friend is someone who does not care if he has given you more than you have given him. He doesn’t remember things that he has done to you so he could ask something from you in return in the future. He is unselfish and finds gratification in giving something to you.

A friend is someone who finds no reason for not calling you back. She even says sorry for she have made you feel inconsiderable, and she would not want that to be felt by someone like you.

A friend is someone you are not afraid to divulge your mistakes or your unattractive characteristics to. You know that she will not humiliate you with those things. You know that she will help you change those inferior traits or at least accept you as who you are.

A friend does not tell deceits about you and pull you down just to be noticed in a gathering. A friend does not make fun of you and try to make a fool out of you just to make a party alive. A friend even makes fun of himself sometimes, because he wants you to be part of the merriment.

A friend will not do anything that would destroy your name. He does not stab you in the back and does not let anyone do that to you. A friend is there for you even if you are not around.

A friend is trustworthy. She doesn’t spill anything that is supposed to be just for the both of you. As a friend, she knows that there are things about you that only she can understand. She doesn’t want you to be misunderstood by other people.

A friend does not look at you as someone that he can brag to. He sees you as someone he can share his triumph with because he knows that you will also be happy if he is happy.

A friend doesn’t care to have a happy time every time you are with him. He cares more about you, what happened to you, and what will happen to you. If there is something that is important to be talked about, he would willingly talk to you or listen to you regardless of whether it will somehow make the day less fun or not.

Let’s reflect and see whether we are being true friends or just acting like acquaintance of people who have been real friends to us. Let’s always remind ourselves of the essence of friendship because that’s the only way we can able to act as real friends. Friendship is not something as shallow as drinking beer with a person; as malling around with your buddy; or as dancing with your girl friend. It doesn’t last for three hours of movie time, nor 3 days of outing. Friendship is a responsibility. It is something treasured and cared for. Friendship is a commitment like that of lovers, just less intimate… it is a commitment based on good communication, honesty, respect and selflessness.

Who I Really Am

Close friends and even lovers backstab each other; Elders tell false things about their children; churchmen and churchwomen flauntingly tolerate and explain away their evil doings; people use good people for selfish reasons; and people present good people as if they are bad. These are the kinds of people or acts that I have seen in the recent years that really shocked me. Every one of us in one way or another wants, and sometimes, even needs someone or a group that can be really trusted. Because of these kinds of people, this aspiration seems to be just an illusion nowadays for some. This is then why people just accepts these evil things and tolerate them. Another upshot of these evil acts is that they make innocent act or even good acts perceived to be evil acts by some who have lost their trust for the world. This is sad. This is so sad, isn’t it?

Facts are not difficult to find, but, since it is easy to make false ideas, facts are shrouded by stubbornness and cowardice. And so, false conceptions are tolerated and people are misunderstood. So what do these things got to do with who I am? Well, I know people who have judged me and said things about me that are not true. Some people have believed these deceits and actually accepted them as true. If you will ask people around me about who I am, I doubt that you will not be dumfounded with the way the answers will differ. Because of these people, you can technically describe me in many different views.

Deceitful people do exist. Odious deceitful acts happen. Let’s be aware. Let’s beware. We have no choice but to deal with them. That is, deal with them and not ignore them. We must all know that not doing anything to stop these things is a way of tolerating them. If we are one of these people and if we have one of these kinds of act then let’s change. Let’s strive for a better life and for a joy for everyone. To people who have encountered things like these, let us, in any how, stop these things and be a good model deserving of trust instead of being one of them. If everyone seems to be lying, deceiving, and backstabbing, then it is not a sign to stop in trying to do what we innately do… let’s not stop being good. Moreover, let’s be smart and let us open our eyes. Looking will just make us see the shallow and false things. Opening our eyes would make us be aware of the actualities of a situation and of someone.

If some say that you can not trust anyone in this world but yourself, this is still not true for me. I believe there are still people out there that I can really trust. I just have not really met them… maybe I have not yet realized that they are really trustworthy persons… and maybe I have not made them yet. :) We all can meet the persons we can really trust. We all can put up a family and make children that is worthy of anyone’s trust. To do this, it will greatly help if we’ll be trustworthy, ourselves, all the time.

Rumors might be able to destroy my name but only if when fools will be more abundant than the wise ones. This is because only fools believe in rumors; only fools pull down people to make them more acceptable; only fools fool themselves by accepting things based on intuitions; and only fools judge people especially if it just comes from hearsays. If I just keep up on trying my best to be good, my name will only be destroyed to fools by fools.

So who is Trx? Who am I? The facts will tell you who I really am.