Who You Are Becoming

As we get older, we get to instill an attitude to ourselves that would determine the choices that we are going to have in our daily lives. As we grow older, we get to turn ourselves to someone that could be good or bad. Do we take enough time to see what we are becoming as we live our lives? How can we see that person that we are becoming? Are we determined to be a good person for ourselves, for our love ones, and for God?

To have an idea of what we are becoming, we just have to see ourselves every day. Instead of seeing others, instead of being focused on happiness that would last for a while, we just have to be focused on the decisions we make every moment in every circumstance. If we choose to be good persons, we just have to include God in every decision that we will make regardless how small it is. Many of us have encountered the saying that goes: thoughts create actions, actions can give us habits, and habits can form our personality. This is really true and it is really sad that many people choose to ignore this fact and so end up transforming themselves into someone weak on temptations.

There will be times that being bad and doing what is immoral will seem to be better than doing what is good. There will be a lot of times that bad people will seem to be happier. We are going to meet many people in our lives. I think that we are going to meet more people that choose to succumb to their weaknesses than people who will choose to be strong and try hard to stop the bad things that they are doing. With these, being good seems to be really hard to do. It is hard, yes, but only if we have not understood yet what really there is in being a good person and happy with God.

A bad person chooses things that provide happiness that last for a while. He chooses to have sex with other persons even though he is committed to someone else just because he feels like doing it. He did not just get a happiness that would last for a short time. He did not just undermine the essence of making love with his lover. Also, he started making himself into someone that is used to having sex with many people at the same time, thus, making his body, his attitude about relationship, his life, all more dishonorable. If he understands what being a good person and happy with God is, he will think and ask God what will bring him lasting joy. He will think what the consequences of his actions are. If he will think of the consequences of his actions, he will realize that if he has sexed someone other than the person he is committed to, he will weaken the intimacy and the essence of his relationship with his lover. If he includes God in his actions, he will stay faithful because he knows that being good would bring him lasting joy.

If we think with God we are going to understand what really there is in being a good person and happy with Him. If we think with God we are going to experience joys that would last a lifetime. If we think with God we are going to see what the joys He has in store for us are. And once we have realized and understood those joys, we don’t even have to try hard being good and think with God… doing what’s good and talking with God will just like breathing to us.

Lucky are those people who have a habit of including God in their decisions, because they are the people who have self-respect, who have deeper love for their love ones, who have a helpful relationship with their friends, and who have lives that have a purpose… a purpose that is so good, anyone who understands, could die for it.

There is a God. He is there not only when we need help. He is there to guide us every step of the way. The question is: Are you willing enough to be a good person and know how wonderful it is like walking with Him?

The Easy Bad and the Hard Good

Every decision we do makes us either good or bad. All of us have a choice to try to be good or bad. However, regardless of what you choose to do or try to become, it will be inevitable to still be judged and be treated as someone you are not. A lot of people who act evilly are judged as if their good. There are even a lot more of respectful people who are treated as bad ones. Sometimes, it even feel like it’s better to try to be bad because of the fact that one can still find a lot of people treating him as a bad person even though he’s good. It’s actually a lot easier being successful in being bad, don’t you think?

I wonder what the main reason why there are a lot of people who act like this is. Is it because they just can’t accept that they don’t know enough and so they try to assume and think of superficial things and make them as facts so they’ll feel they know something? Is it because there are a lot of people who are just ignorant and incapable of thinking proper enough to act well to help people in their endeavor to be good all the time instead of giving them a hard time in being so? One of the biggest reasons, I believe, is that a lot of people are cowards to do the right thing. They assume things and act base on these assumptions instead of trying to know the facts. No wonder, often times, people are acting as if they know enough when they know so little.

Acting based on assumptions can either hinder us from doing the best things for our lives and even for others or can make us do the worse thing to others and even to ourselves.

It is easy to be bad and it is hard to be good. I feel that’s the fact now, at least for a lot of places. Yes it is a fact now, but it’s up to us if we are going let that fact continues forever. Let’s be smarter and have keen eyes to know the person who is trying to be good and who is not. Let’s not make anyone feel that being evil is easier than trying to be righteous. Let’s help people be good persons. I think we all know how to do that.

Someday, there will be a person writing a manuscript entitled “The Hard Bad and the Easy Good.” It is possible. Do you think it is possible?

Friend

All of us have friends and most of us consider many people as our friends. A lot of people believe that they are friends of many people, as well. But, do we really know what a friend is? Can we really consider every one of us as a friend to a lot of people? When can one say that he is being a friend to a person? I believe that people who can be called as “friends” are very rare now. Sadly, many people are more concerned with selfish reasons and see people around them as an opportunity to get something for themselves. Many people act in friendship as if they are in a competition, only wanting to be the best and have the best from the group. So what is a friend?

A friend is someone who does not care if he has given you more than you have given him. He doesn’t remember things that he has done to you so he could ask something from you in return in the future. He is unselfish and finds gratification in giving something to you.

A friend is someone who finds no reason for not calling you back. She even says sorry for she have made you feel inconsiderable, and she would not want that to be felt by someone like you.

A friend is someone you are not afraid to divulge your mistakes or your unattractive characteristics to. You know that she will not humiliate you with those things. You know that she will help you change those inferior traits or at least accept you as who you are.

A friend does not tell deceits about you and pull you down just to be noticed in a gathering. A friend does not make fun of you and try to make a fool out of you just to make a party alive. A friend even makes fun of himself sometimes, because he wants you to be part of the merriment.

A friend will not do anything that would destroy your name. He does not stab you in the back and does not let anyone do that to you. A friend is there for you even if you are not around.

A friend is trustworthy. She doesn’t spill anything that is supposed to be just for the both of you. As a friend, she knows that there are things about you that only she can understand. She doesn’t want you to be misunderstood by other people.

A friend does not look at you as someone that he can brag to. He sees you as someone he can share his triumph with because he knows that you will also be happy if he is happy.

A friend doesn’t care to have a happy time every time you are with him. He cares more about you, what happened to you, and what will happen to you. If there is something that is important to be talked about, he would willingly talk to you or listen to you regardless of whether it will somehow make the day less fun or not.

Let’s reflect and see whether we are being true friends or just acting like acquaintance of people who have been real friends to us. Let’s always remind ourselves of the essence of friendship because that’s the only way we can able to act as real friends. Friendship is not something as shallow as drinking beer with a person; as malling around with your buddy; or as dancing with your girl friend. It doesn’t last for three hours of movie time, nor 3 days of outing. Friendship is a responsibility. It is something treasured and cared for. Friendship is a commitment like that of lovers, just less intimate… it is a commitment based on good communication, honesty, respect and selflessness.